Today, I want to bring attention to National Stress Awareness Day, celebrated each year on the first Wednesday of November! The International Stress Management Association (ISMA) sponsored this day of recognition to highlight the importance of stress management and promote positive coping skills. With this intention in mind, I believe it is important to acknowledge the seasonal stressors that many of us face during the holidays. While this season brings a lot of joy and merriment, it also adds pressure to an already full plate.

When I consider holiday stress, my mind initially jumps to the complexities of extended family visits, travel arrangements, and gift-giving. These thoughts may be buzzing around your mind as well, as they often occupy much of our attention. However, in recent conversations with community members, I have noticed another quieter source of stress. For many, the prospect of holiday activity brings up a sense of bittersweet nostalgia and perhaps some loneliness. I think we can learn something from our community members who spend this time reflecting on those emotions.

You may feel similarly torn between seasonal melancholy and a desire to engage in the festivity. This tension likely creates even more stress. Maybe you’re missing a loved one; maybe you’re mourning lost time this year; maybe your home looks a little different after the hurricane. Taking time to honor your losses does not minimize the wonder of the season. Instead, I believe this practice adds more meaning to it. Create space for the bittersweet. Make memories in shared nostalgia.

Your stressors do not disappear by naming them, but they may feel lighter when shared with others. This holiday season, I am especially thankful that others have allowed me to witness their stress as they have witnessed mine. As you share your table this season, consider sharing your feelings as well.

-Sarah Lerner, Intern
Generations Ashe